What’s okay on Facebook? The rules of etiquette on Facebook seem to be a little more refined. Keep these tips in mind, whether you’re making your first friend or your 1000th.
1. Who should you friend? Some people adopt an everyone, welcome policy on Facebook and accept all friend requests; some only want real-world contacts in their friends list. In deciding on the right approach for you, bear in mind that the bigger your friend network is, the more application, event, chat session, and cause invitations you’ll receive–and that can lead to some uncomfortable moments and the occasional friend purge.
2. Easy on the updates: As on Twitter, over sharing on Facebook can be a problem. Every meal eaten, every TV show experienced, and every weather condition observed need not be the subject of a status update. Ask yourself whether anyone is likely to care about your comment before you start typing.
3. “Now, choose 12 friends…” It’s fine if you want to take a “Which serial killer are you?” quiz. When you complete multiple-choice questions, however, you’ll almost certainly be asked to invite a dozen or so people to take the quiz, too; there’s no need for this unless you think they’ll really enjoy it. Look for a ‘Skip this step’ or ‘Continue to result’ button (in tiny type) somewhere on the page, click it, and you won’t have to send invitations to anyone as a precondition to getting your quiz results. Clicking the ‘Skip’ button on the following screen will prevent the quiz from showing up on your wall or being shared on your friends’ walls.
4. Limit Facebook chat: Just because someone has a Facebook window open doesn’t mean they’re automatically available for a chat session. Facebook Chat is like any other instant messaging platform–use it appropriately, and recognize that your friends may be too busy to respond immediately, especially during business hours.
5. No pokes: If you are over the age of 16, don’t “poke” seriously people.
6. It’s not considered friendly to invite your friends to a Facebook group that is only to hype your own business and has nothing else to offer:
Avoid “Group think.” One disconcerting trend among many Facebook users involves creating a Group for a business concern, and then inviting everyone to join the group. This is a misuse of the feature–and bad manners–since Groups are designed to serve as gathering places to discuss genuine leisure, cultural, social, or other common interests. Common courtesy should impel you not to create a Group just for your business –but if you insist on doing so anyway, please invite only employees or have a real interest to join the Group. If your business needs a Facebook presence, create an official Page for it; then, if you must, invite friends to becomes fans of that Page. My thought is always ..always ask before adding anyone to a group.
7. Beware of embarrassing photos: Resist the temptation to post every last photo from your birthday party on Facebook, particularly images that may cast your guests in an unflattering light. If you have any doubt, ask the subjects of any iffy pictures in advance whether they’d mind your posting the shots; then abide by their wishes.
8. Re posting: The polite thing to do it ask before you re post or copy other people’s wall posts unless it is impersonal, then I don’t think they would mind.
9. Tag lightly: The same thing goes for tagging: The people in a picture might not object to its being on-line as long as their names are not associated with it.
“I am not an animal!!” Time to un tag a Facebook image that identifies me as a dog.
Or… un tag yourself. It is no breach of etiquette to un tag yourself from any photograph. Remember, though, that un tagging is permanent: You can’t be re tagged to a photo once the tag is removed. Ignore away. You are under no obligation to acknowledge a Facebook friend request, whether it comes from a stranger or from someone you know but don’t want as part of your digital life. After all, you wouldn’t be obliged to seat visitors at your dinner table if they showed up without warning at your house at 7 o’clock. (One alternative way of dealing with this situation is to add iffy contacts to a severely restricted limited profile list.) If you want to friend a stranger (for whatever reason), add a note of explanation to your friend request, explaining who you are and the reason for your request.
10. Sharing, Commenting and Reviewing: It is only polite if you join a group or page, that you take a minute to like, share and/or comment on it. Why did you join in the first place if it wasn’t to contact with that group of people? I am quit sure that they asked you because they valued your option or your advise. If you don’t want to take part in the group then it is also polite to leave. Wouldn’t you like people to return the favor of giving you a few minutes of their time. I will tell you that people remember who did it for them. Did you know that most pages have place on it for reviews… it would be nice to do that also.
11. Read profiles: Please if you don’t do anything else read people’s profile before you friend or ask them questions. You will see that they are married, not married, have children, not have children.. etc… Facebook is not a dating site per say… So really people take a look before to start that stuff. It is a good way to get yourself banned by trying to pick up a date. I have banned at least 100 people for this type of behavior.
I would enjoying hearing about any other tips or ideas. Please leave a comment.. Thank you.
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